Once they are already introduced to each other by their family, they can already try to get to know each other better.They can start communicating through phone and even chat online through online dating sites.For Rohan and his girlfriend, dates are often held in a group setting. Dating was a natural progression after getting closer, so when we go on dates today our friends are nearby,’ explained Rohan.‘It makes falling into potentially sinful activities much more difficult.’ Sarah, who often invites her boyfriend to her family’s house on their dates, finds many benefits in doing so.
We would hate each other at first but after a series of silly circumstances and a whole lot of mayhem, we would fall in love and I would realise that he was the one. Oh yeah, I’m Muslim Like many Muslim girls growing up, I was constantly told that dating was haram (forbidden) so having a boyfriend was never an option.‘I’ve had three serious boyfriends in the past, and in each relationship, I considered marrying them at one point,’ says 28-year-old Aisyah, who recently got married.‘Even though [those relationships] didn’t work out in the end, I wouldn’t have invested so much of my time and emotions if I had never considered to marry them.’ Aisyah also sees dating as a blessing in some ways.Finally, we would have a climactic moment at a beautiful park, in front of a famous landmark, or the first place we met, and we would share a fireworks-inducing kiss (with real fireworks behind us) right before the credits began to roll. While my friends were ‘going steady’ then breaking up, I’d sit on the sidelines and silently disapprove.That used to be my fantasy until I realised several things: 1. At the same time, I was expected to get married someday and fulfill half my deen, so it was all quite confusing for me.