He either feels inferior or he’s uninterested in expanding his social circle. Guys don’t always like having to go to your sorority sister’s wedding or your family reunion, but if you’ve told him about it, he should have marked his calendar.If he acts surprised when the day arrives, this is a sign that he doesn’t respect you, which is a major symptom of immaturity.I’m not saying he has to have his whole career planned out, but if he blows off work when he doesn’t feel like going, quits or gets fired because he’s too lazy or the job is too boring, this guy still doesn’t know life isn’t always about doing whatever he wants to do all the time. A man doesn’t worry about who’s at fault — it doesn’t matter.If he doesn’t have your back when you get into a confrontation (even if he doesn’t agree with you), he either doesn’t give a shit about you or he’s a coward. There’s nothing productive about assigning or arguing about blame. It’s been said many times that arguing in relationships is a good thing — it proves you’re both invested.This can be an endearing quality, but it will get frustrating if you’re trying to plan a life with someone incapable of commitment. Still, when we’re drawn to people, we tend to make excuses for their faults. How can you expect to have an adult relationship with someone who’s never left the nest?If he thinks being in a relationship means he never has to cook, do his laundry or clean up after himself (or needs you to at least remind him to do those things), you’re in pretty warped territory.But the difference between a man and a boy is that the man knows you hate that kind of shit and makes a suggestion anyway.
Instead of being upfront and honest with you when you’ve pissed him off or hurt his feelings, he just shuts down or finds subtle ways to make your life difficult. If this guy intentionally does the opposite of what’s expected from him just for the sake of being contrarian, that’s a sign of insecurity, immaturity or douche-baggery. As long as it’s not interfering with his life, let the guy play.No, I’m talking about the kind of games when he’s fucking with your mind. He has no interest in your hopes and dreams unless they revolve around him; he only cares that his needs are being met.This guy has an unrealistic and outdated idea of what it means to be a man.He thinks that unless everything is done on his terms, he’ll be perceived as weak-willed. Maybe it’s an old gender role, but men are expected to be reasonably handy.