It should be personal enough that she thinks you've read her profile, but not so specific that you can’t use it for any occasion.As you can see, it begins with a small compliment implying you might be interested.And once you’ve built a small repertoire, you can start testing them out.Send the same message to 30 different women and record your results. Weed out the under-performers and focus on sending the winners more often.What's a better line: "How you doin'" or "How you doin'? Sunday priorities: exercise, sleep, or aggressive mimosas? " The dating app Hinge (it's like Tinder but based more on your Facebook friend group) did some experimenting to find out what kinds of opening messages work best once you've been matched with someone. However, women don't mind waiting — there's only a 5% drop in the chance she'll respond if you wait six hours. ) to respond to messages that were assertive in tone, and a straightforward invitation, like "drinks soon? "Women were 40% more likely to respond if the message somehow involved food. Choose: adult treehouse or the ability to talk to animals? C.'s top two lines — apparently anything cheese-related works on Washingtonians (average of 58% higher likelihood of response): Do you string your string cheese or bite it? (best performing line) Another data point they examined was how long you should wait to message someone after you get a match. They found men are impatient: If you don't message within six hours of matching, the likelihood that he'll respond drops by 25%. You can only keep one: Jon Stewart, Stephen Colbert, or John Oliver? (average of 45% higher likelihood of response): How was your 2004?
" actually worked just as well as the clever prewritten lines.
Normally, on Hinge you're free to use whatever opening line you want — it shows you mutual friends and interests then gives you a blank canvas to write whatever you want.
But for one month, Hinge gave a random 22% of users the option to use a clever prewritten opening line in addition to writing their own messages. They then tracked which of those prewritten lines were most likely to get a reply, using the data to determine which lines worked best based on gender, location, and how fast you sent a message after getting a match.
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This kind of message begins by pointing out a mutual interest, and then asks a question geared toward the topic at hand (skiing, hiking, running, etc.) Give her a chance to brag about herself a little bit, or to point out that she is a total novice.