“From my personal experience, people who are better looking are less likely to pursue advanced degrees, or play an instrument or learn other languages,” says Benedict Beckeld, a 37-year-old Brooklyn writer with a doctorate in philosophy and the body of an Adonis.But he’s quick to note that he’s not just a great set of abs — he also plays the violin and speaks seven languages.“I gave him my card and said I have the perfect girl for him,” recalls Janis, founder of Serious Matchmaking, based in Midtown.“Successful men who are in shape have the pickings when it comes to dating, [but] eventually they want a woman of substance.” Rochkind found that in Carly, 30, a lovely brunette who’s the vice president of her mother’s matchmaking company and a Syracuse University graduate. He loves that Carly isn’t like the swimsuit models he used to go for.“When I asked him why he loves me, he said that he loves my drive and my passion,” Young says.Rochkind is equally enthusiastic about his decision to give up high-maintenance hotties.
Now, she’s more interested in “superballer” men with high-paying careers.
“When men get to a certain age, they realize that it’s important to meet a life partner that they connect with,” she says.
“Looks fade.” Some great-looking people say they’re given a bad rap unfairly.
After dating an athletic banker with model good looks for two years, Sonali Chitre, 34, has sworn off hotties.
“He was a Nazi about his diet and would work out hard-core and cared more about his body than just living life,” says Chitre, who broke up with the finance guy last October.